women

What’s With the Head Coverings?

May 4, 2023 // 24 Comments

When I wrote my book about women in the church, my aim was to examine every verse that has been hijacked to oppress and silence women. I wanted to show that contrary to what many of us have heard, woman are in no way inferior to men. In the new covenant of grace, women can preach, teach, and lead, and do anything [...]

Patriarchy is not God’s Plan for Your Marriage

November 17, 2022 // 20 Comments

God intended for marriage to be between one man and one woman, but the fall of man opened the door to two evils; polygyny and patriarchy. Polygyny replaces partnership Adam’s offspring took multiple wives, a practice known as polygyny. (Polygyny is a kind of polygamy. The other kind—having multiple [...]

Is a Silent Wife a Gift from the Lord?

September 8, 2022 // 11 Comments

Recently in New Zealand, there was a job advertisement calling for a couple to manage a holiday camp. According to the ad, the ideal wife would have knowledge of Microsoft Office, know how to work the telephone, and be “of a quiet disposition.” The implication was that vocal or outspoken wives would not be [...]

Why Does Jesus Hate Divorce?

July 21, 2022 // 17 Comments

In the modern church we think we treat women well. We tell ourselves that we are enlightened, educated and respectful. But in the very next breath we tell women they can’t preach or teach and it would best if they remain silent in our services. What’s wrong with that picture?! God made Eve a queen, yet we [...]

Who has Authority in a Marriage?

June 9, 2022 // 5 Comments

Who has the authority in a marriage, the husband or the wife? For much of human history, the men were in charge, and their wives were considered little more than property. Strangely, Paul seems to support this archaic arrangement when he tells the Corinthians: The wife does not have authority over her own body, [...]

Are Women Weaker Vessels?

March 9, 2022 // 11 Comments

Running through the tapestry of human history is a sexist thread that says women are weaker and inferior to men. They are second-born and second-best. This is what the philosophers and rabbis taught, as did the Church Fathers and theologians. John Chrysostom said the women in the Bible were occasionally [...]

Are Women Saved through Childbearing?

February 22, 2022 // 7 Comments

One of the strangest verses in the Bible is found in Paul’s first letter to Timothy: But women will be saved through childbearing – if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety. (1 Timothy 2:15) If there was ever a verse that could be misused to promote patriarchy and dead works, it’s this [...]

Why did Mary Find Favor with God?

December 15, 2021 // 13 Comments

Imagine God asked you to recruit the mother of the Messiah. Two women have been shortlisted, and you have been asked to pick the best one. The first woman has an impeccable pedigree being descended from Aaron the high priest; the other is a nobody from the no-name town of Nazareth. The first one is married to a [...]

Are you Complementarian, Egalitarian, or Something Else?

December 9, 2021 // 23 Comments

Every one of us holds a view about the role of women. What can they do; what can’t they do? Your answers to these questions defines your bias. “Wait, I’m not biased!” Relax. We are all biased, and the sooner we acknowledge our biases, the sooner we can have a meaningful discussion. “My views come [...]

How Does a Husband Act Like a Head?

November 4, 2021 // 4 Comments

Here’s a line you may have heard: “God has ordained the husband to be the head of the marriage, which means he’s in charge.” The first bit is biblical; the second bit is not. Headship, in a Biblical sense, has nothing to do with superiority or being in charge. The Greek philosophers taught that men were [...]

In Marriage, Who Takes the Lead?

September 9, 2021 // 11 Comments

If you have been raised with a traditional view of marriage, you’ve probably heard the husband is in charge. “In a marriage, the man is God’s delegated authority. He leads.” It sounds Biblical, but it isn’t. It has more in common with those sexist advertisements of yesteryear than anything [...]

Is the Husband the Head of His Wife?

June 3, 2021 // 29 Comments

Headship is revealed in sacrifice. In the same way that Christ gave himself up for the church, the husband gives himself up for his wife. He crawls through traffic, fights grizzly bears, and catches bullets for her. [...]

How Sexist is your Bible?

March 18, 2021 // 12 Comments

In my research for The Silent Queen, I was often amazed at how a single word in the Bible could be translated different ways leading to radically different conclusions. Here’s an example from 2 Timothy 2:2: The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful men [...]

What does the Bible say about Women Pastors?

March 7, 2021 // 26 Comments

Can women pastor? Feed this question into Google, and you’ll be led to a bunch of websites that say no, women cannot pastor or lead churches. Which goes to show you that you shouldn’t believe everything you read on the internet. (Yes, I appreciate the irony.) Under the old covenant, only men could be priests, [...]

What a Difference a Word Can Make

February 18, 2021 // 28 Comments

We Christians are very good at drawing bad conclusions from good scriptures. This happens when we read a verse out of context. Sometimes it can happen because we miss one single word. Misread the Bible and you’ll end up with all sorts of screwy ideas. You’ll think we cleanse ourselves by confessing sins or [...]

Equality is not the Goal

February 13, 2021 // 31 Comments

You probably know that I have written a book about women. You may be wondering about my agenda. “What are Paul’s views on gender roles? Is he a complementarian or an egalitarian? Does he support traditional arrangements where the man is in charge or does he promote equality?” Full disclosure: I believe in [...]

Do you have a Biblical View of Women?

January 13, 2021 // 19 Comments

In the church, you will encounter two views about women. There is the traditional view (women should be meek, stay-at-home-mothers) and the so-called progressive view (women can do anything men can do). Which view is Biblical? I suspect most people would say the traditional view. Many churchgoers believe that the [...]

Why the Woman of Proverbs 31 May Not Be Your Ideal Wife

December 3, 2020 // 32 Comments

Many men and women have a mental list describing their ideal partner. “She’s got to be a good cook, enjoy watching sports, and not be a nag.” “He’s got to have a steady job, a nice car, and a mother who lives far away.” Some even invoke a Biblical basis for this sort of wish list. “Proverbs says, [...]

Why the Church is Wrong about Women

November 24, 2020 // 31 Comments

How would you rate the most influential people in history? This question is behind an ongoing study run by MIT’s Media Lab. A while back the folks at MIT reported that the most influential person in history was the Greek philosopher Aristotle. In second place was Plato, third was Jesus, and fourth was [...]

Jesus Listened to Women; Why Don’t We?

November 13, 2020 // 25 Comments

This one is going out to all those who’ve told me they would never listen to a woman or follow a woman because it’s unbiblical, unseemly, or because women’s voices are too high-pitched. Take a breath, folks. Look at what Jesus did. Go and do likewise… When Jesus walked the earth, gender [...]

Is the Church too Feminine?

October 21, 2020 // 2 Comments

I have been blown away by the positive response to my forthcoming book, The Silent Queen: Why the Church Needs Women to find their Voice. Although the book doesn’t come out until Christmas, I thought you’d might like a taste now. The following article has been cut from the Introduction… Since its inception, [...]

Submission doesn’t Mean what you Think it Means

October 7, 2020 // 17 Comments

Bad theology hurts women. Sometimes it even kills them. In his book Ten Lies the Church Tells Women, Lee Grady tells the story of a woman called Doris who suffered through an abusive marriage. Doris’s husband, the head deacon at their church, would sometimes come home from work in a rage and physically assault [...]

Who Submits in Marriage?

October 2, 2020 // 19 Comments

When Camilla and I were writing our wedding vows, my future wife told me that she had a problem with the word submit. We had dug up some traditional vows based on Ephesians 5:22: “I promise to love, cherish and submit to my husband as to the Lord.” “I’m not going to say that,” said Camilla. I didn’t [...]

Is the King James Bible (KJV) sexist?

September 10, 2020 // 32 Comments

Recently I asked the question, “Is the Bible sexist?” It is and it isn’t. It is in the sense that it records the sexist stories and laws of patriarchal societies. But it isn’t in the sense that it reveals God’s heart for equality and freedom. Men and women were made equal in God’s image (Gen. [...]

Women Pastors in the Bible

September 2, 2020 // 48 Comments

What is a pastor? A pastor is a shepherd. That’s what the word literally means. A pastor is someone who tends and guides spiritual sheep. Can women pastor? Let me answer that question with a better one: If God has gifted and called a woman to pastor, should we oppose him? Here’s another: Since God empowered [...]

Jesus – Pioneer of Women’s Education

July 9, 2020 // 13 Comments

These days more women than men enrol in higher education, but it wasn’t always this way. Women did not begin studying at university in Britain until 1869. In the US, the first college to admit women was Oberlin College, in 1837. The University of Bologna in Italy was reputedly the first in the world to teach [...]

Are Women More Easily Deceived?

July 1, 2020 // 47 Comments

Here’s a question for your next Bible Study class: Why do female witches outnumber male witches twenty to one? Odd question? King James didn’t think so. When he wasn’t overseeing the production of the Bible that bears his name, James was interrogating women he believed were witches. James was obsessed with [...]

Did Jesus say Adultery is the only Grounds for Divorce?

May 6, 2020 // 115 Comments

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus said this about divorce and remarriage: It has been said, “Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.” But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced [...]

Jesus, the Champion of women

January 15, 2020 // 12 Comments

In the church we have a good appreciation of what Jesus did for us, but we don’t really understand all he did for women. If we did, you can be sure we would treat them better than we do. In my last article in this series, I introduced the idea that Jesus empowered women. In this article I want to highlight two [...]

How did Jesus Empower Women?

December 12, 2019 // 12 Comments

When Jesus walked the earth, gender inequality was so entrenched in Jewish society that an adulteress could be stoned without trial and men could divorce their wives for just about any reason at all. In a nation of God-fearing and moral men, women were considered little more than property. They were servants [...]

Are Women Permitted to Teach? (1 Timothy 2:12)

October 26, 2017 // 75 Comments

Are women permitted to teach in church? You might think not if you read this verse: I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. (1 Tim 2:12) Oh dear. Don’t tell Joyce Meyer that women aren’t allowed to teach. Or my mum, my wife, or a gazillion other ladies who teach [...]

Should Women Be Silent in Church?

October 18, 2017 // 80 Comments

My three daughters are growing up in a country where women often reach the highest levels of leadership. In New Zealand we’ve had female heads of state and government and everything else besides. As a father, I am thrilled that my daughters will be able to do just about anything they put their mind to. As long [...]

Women Preachers? Where’s that in the Bible?!

October 10, 2017 // 156 Comments

I have three daughters. When they get a little older and start drawing the attention of young men, I will give them this piece of timeless advice: Don’t just listen to what he says; watch what he does. A man may say anything, but his actions will always reveal his heart. This is good to remember when we come to [...]